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Sometimes, as the old saying goes, silence is golden. There are times in everyone's life when we simply cannot find the right words to say at difficult times. There are also times in our lives that it seems like no matter what words another person might offer, that they cannot help to relieve us of the pain and agony that we are experiencing.
At other times, however, words needs to be spoken in order to help calm, sympathize with,or show someone that you share their burden with them. It is generally easy to know what to say in times of happiness and good fortune. Congratulations can be said in many ways and in many languages. That is usually an easy sentiment to get across to another person. But, how do you know what to say in times of sickness, sorrowm or death? In times like these, we tend to become tongue-tied as our minds go blank in nervousness. So, what do we say?
First, it is most important that we remain as calm as we posssible can when faced with a disheartening occasion. We must also remember that, even though we feel our own level of disress,we need to venture outside of our own shell of sadness and reach out to others who are experiencing the same feelings, or feelings that are deeper and sadder than ours. We cannot even begin to help another person who is in trouble if we are not level minded ourselves.
What we say to help comfort a person in need of human compassion depends on the situation, the person we are dealing with, and the cirucmstances of the situation. Sometimes it is best to talk about the situation with the person, yet other times it is best to avoid the situation and, instead, talk about positive things in order to distract their focus away. You can tell which route is the best to take by the personality as well as the present mental state the person you are trying to soothe is in.
There is another old saying that tells us that actions speak louder than words. In times of trouble and distress, there is sometimes no better communication between two human beings than a warm hug, a friendly pat on the back, a hand held gently, or a light kiss on the cheek. These universal gestures can speak volumes that are understood in any language. And, everyone can use a friendly gesture every day of their lives.
In conclusion, remain calm and look at the siutation at hand totally. Decide from there on what words to say, if any, at this time. Choose your words wisely and speak them softly. Hearing a soft voice will often help to calm the person who is in distress. Speak the words that you say and make sure that they are from your heart, and that you mean them. Don't try to fake it or makeup things that you would not normally say. Be yourself, and be natural. Most of all, be sincere and sympathetic to the other person's plight. Sharing an unhappy experience with another person is one of the best ways to help someone begin the long, slow healing process.
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